The chance to live what you didn’t

Life was always a secret, people talk about it, but really few can understand it, and even in this case, their understanding of life will be limited. Imagine you are having a talk about life with a friend, and you try to remember the phases of your life, then you look back and tell your friend all the things that happened. Usually, this talk drifts to the sad moments of life or the sad side of life itself.

Suddenly, you discover that life was nothing but a bunch of actions that take time, time that is limited during your life path. Eventually, your discussion will get to the conclusion that life is just a race against time, and that everything you do will end when you die. So basically for all of us, the general events of life can be told as the following: You are born, you get increased care from your parents day by day, you only know how to eat and play during this phase, and you cry a lot too. The most expensive price to get whatever you want is most likely some crying and screaming, or a cute face that your parents cannot resist. Next, you go to school and get some new friends, it’s a new environment, along with some new challenges, that increase as you grow older. You start studying more year after year until the end where you become overloaded with studies. During this phase, you get a lot of experiences that will remain in your memory for the rest of your life. Most of us get their first love, or first attraction to someone they like, the highest number of awkward moments per year, your first big disappointment, your first rejection, and many “first time” events. Now that school is done, you go to the university, and your life changes, you have a higher level of freedom and you experience things differently, long story short, disappointments are still there, you still get moments that you don’t want to remember and you still have a big load of homework and courses.

After you finish the last year of university and its burdens, after the long study nights, you graduate and start your career journey. You start working for a low salary to get experience after finding an employer that does not require experience. You convince yourself that you have to tolerate some behaviors at work to gain experience and that you are not in the stage of negotiating yet. After years, you find yourself progressing and gaining day by day a higher position in your career, the long ladder that is most likely hard to climb, and that requires sacrifices.

I think that until now all that you thought about while reading is the bad side of your life, the hard one that makes people say: is a life worth living?

Although life is hard and sometimes unfair, it is a matter of perspective. Life is the same, for those who are positive, and for those who are negative, the perspective changes, and surprisingly, perspective has more influence on life then life has on perspective. Do you see those successful people that are positive? They aren’t positive because of their success, but instead, they are successful because they are positive. When someone is positive, they have an entirely different mindset, they don’t block opportunities, and they know how to live every moment and take every chance. Read this text again from the beginning, only this time, please be positive. Before reading, put a constant in your mind, that life is worth living. When you finish the second reading of this text, you will most probably see the beauty of what you have been through, but the beautiful thing is that some people will remember the things they didn’t do and wish they have done them. Just like everyone says, you don’t regret what you said but shouldn’t, as hard as you regret what you didn’t say but should.

But what if you can change all this, and end up this negative cycle? The one where you fail because you are negative, then become more negative because you failed? Luckily, there is no need for that “what if”, because there is a kill switch for the cycle, and it’s Positivity. Not the type of positivity that ignores all possible risks and end up risking everything to the point of failure, but the type of Positivity that knows how to tackle every situation while keeping everything under control and stay calm. It is in times of storm that we need to see clear, and in the hard times that we need to concentrate, and positivity is believing that you can still increase those values in the graph of your life, even if they fail one day, you will have the will to turn them up.

There is an example that I like a lot, and it speaks about the strong desire for life and success. Imagine you are deep underwater and you are struggling to breathe, you go to the surface so fast because you can no longer hold it and want air. Then you reach the surface and take a very deep breath, and you feel the air going into your lungs. The desire for life and success need to be as strong as the desire to breathe in this case. Only then, you will do whatever it takes.

Joe J. El housseini